Infidelity Therapy And Life Coaching

Affair Story

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Before I met my therapist, I was questioning many decisions I made around my Affair. Infidelity was never something I thought was ok.

I was confused about my feelings as I still loved parts of my spouse, yet my lover made me feel happy and wanted in the affair.

I was stuck between two relationships feeling like I could not make anyone happy including myself. And in the midst of things, I felt like I was losing everything.

I was tugged and pulled between my spouse, that I decided to leave, and my lover.

Deciding to leave my marriage was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. And leaving a marriage is never cut and dry.

The grief and loss around years of building a life together is tough to let go. Yet, my affair partner wanted it to be very final as a way to show my commitment to them.

On the other hand, my spouse was deeply hurt. Even though I did not want to cause them pain, I did. And I wanted to have a good relationship with them, but it seemed impossible. And because we had a child together, it complicated things even more.

Feeling guilt over the pain I caused my spouse…

Feeling a great sense of loss of not being able to see my child regularly…

Feeling sadness over leaving my home which was my sanctuary…

Questioning my sexuality…

Seeing our extended family and friends split…

Feeling embarrassment over the deceitfulness…

I was living a nightmare when I thought my decision to leave my marriage would bring me happiness.

And because I caused the situation, I felt as if there was no room for me to have any feelings. I felt I deserved all of the negativity of the world.

My life turned into constant argument every which way I turned. And I just wanted one place in my life where I could truly have my own voice and talk about what I wanted based on my feelings. A place where I could speak freely and get help untangling this web of chaos.

I didn’t want to hurt my spouse or my affair partner. I didn’t want to hurt my child. I also didn’t want to live an unhappy life.

I felt afraid to make any decision because I was filled with uncertainties on what the correct decisions were. I felt like I had already made a big mess of things.

I felt confused. I felt alone. I felt paralyzed. I questioned everything I thought. I felt helpless. I felt hopeless.

And I felt the entire world hated me because whom would show empathy to a cheater.

Starting Therapy - Cheating Stories.

I started to think:

• The Affair was not about Sex.

• I was so Unhappy in my Marriage.

• I really loved my lover.

Talking in therapy was hard and it didn’t feel like it would work in the beginning. But I had to figure out a way to survive and couldn’t figure that out on my own.

The process through therapy was difficult and was definitely harder before it got easier.

I realized that I was trying to make everyone happy and failing at it miserably.

In therapy, I was able to make sense of what I truly valued as well as my must haves in life.

I was also able to learn to forgive myself while learning to communicate with my spouse. After all, we were going to be in each other’s lives forever in some way due to our daughter.

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