Married Man Cheated

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I felt so ashamed about what I did. I fucked up. I don’t know what I was thinking.

She found out. She was really angry with me. She wouldn’t even look at me. She said she didn’t want to be with me anymore, but I didn’t want to loose my family.

I didn’t know what to do. It was just sex. The person didn’t mean anything. I was stupid. I was just thinking in the moment. I guess I also thought she would never find out.

I didn’t know how to fix it. I didn’t want to get a divorce. But I also didn’t know what to say to her. She didn’t believe anything I said.

I was willing to do anything to save my marriage. The stress was killing me.

I couldn’t concentrate at work. I didn’t know how to act at home. Everything I did was wrong.

I told her that we could try couples counseling. She didn’t want to.

She would say hateful things to me and it hurt. And I knew I deserved those words for what I put her through.

I just wish I could fix it and have my family the way it was.

I regret what I did. But I can’t take it back.

And she kept asking me details about what happened. I didn’t want to tell her the details. I wanted to take all that stuff to my grave.

When I did answer things, she would cry or become more angry. What good is it doing for me to discuss details?

I felt like there was no place where I could escape to take a break. Constant fighting.

This is when I looked for therapy for myself.

Starting Therapy - Cheating Stories

I started to think:

• I never meant to hurt anyone.

• The Affair was only about Sex.

• I’m still a good person.

I started to work with Claudia and then I started to feel like maybe, just maybe there was hope for me.

Maybe, just maybe my wife and I could get along and not have explosive conflict.

In therapy, I finally had a space where I could express my feelings in a way where I wasn’t judged or felt as if I had to tiptoe around another person‘s feelings.

Even as the person who had the affair, I had a place where I could talk about my feelings such as anger, loneliness, hopelessness, pain, and confusion.

Maybe, just maybe I could find a way to find peaceful relationships.

And maybe just maybe, I could find happiness for myself.

Hope is what grew.

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